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Dear Moms, You Are Enough


(Photo: me chillin’ in my messy house because the boys are both napping at the same time for once! Forget cleaning, it’s time for some laughs.)

As a person new-ish to motherhood, I’ve found that the one thing that has been difficult to deal with, and was quite unexpected, was NO SUPPORT SYSTEM. Good night people, what happened to our support system? I know we live in a world that values individualism and freedom of choice and valuing relationships that you get something out of rather than familial ones, but come on!

So I just wanted to affirm my mommy friends, mommy fans, and all you mommies that I have yet to meet! You are enough, mommies!

I see you mommies struggling with one hand to keep your kids in line at the grocery store while you use your other hand to load the conveyor belt with food.

I see you mommies on Facebook posting memes that “you can do it” while your kids are probably screaming and running around your house like barbarians. (I called my 3.5 year old a barbarian once and he thought it was hilarious.)

I see you mommies staying at home because you just don’t have the energy to fight the little ones into the car. (Or, like me, you share a car with your significant other.)

I see you mommies with your frizzy mom buns that you probably haven’t addressed since yesterday.

I see you mommies feeling like a failure when you yell at your kids.

I see you mommies loving your babies with your whole heart!

I see you doing the very best that you can all by yourself!

I’ve been a stay-at-home mommy for 3.5 years and it’s been rough. I don’t want to complain, but there have been some very rough days. I know that I’m not the only one out there who has felt this enormous lack of support when it comes to motherhood.

I just wanted to let you mommies out there know that I understand where you are and I’m in the same boat. Keep doing the best you can! Don’t feel disappointed when you aren’t perfect. Your kids love you.

My email is emmaleeshallenberger@gmail.com if you feel like you’d like to vent about mommy related topics. 🙂 Or leave a comment below.