Gas-lighting and Satan
One of my life passions is learning and educating my friends and family on narcissism. I know my blogging topics bounce around a lot right now, but I really wanted to share this one with you guys. Narcissism has the power to destroy families and relationships and I feel like this is especially true in Christian homes because a lot of “Christians” are uncomfortable with psychology. I have so many thoughts to share on this topic, but I’ll keep it short for now. Please leave your questions and thoughts in the comments below.
Gas-lighting is my least favorite form of communication, if you can even call it communication. Its primary purpose is to “un-communicate”. It’s used to confuse and control. I have experienced gas-lighting from narcissists, from abusive church members, and from people who say that they love me. (I’ll write more in my memoirs someday.)
I noticed this morning while reading the first chapter in The Desire of Ages (a book by Ellen White) that Lucifer used gas-lighting in heaven while trying to deceive the angels. I’m sure that I’m not the first one to come to this conclusion.
Gas-lighting is often used by narcissists. And Lucifer was the first narcissist. Read this quote.
“Sin originated in self-seeking. Lucifer, the covering cherub desired to be first in heaven. He sought to gain control of heavenly beings, to draw them away from their Creator, and to win their homage to himself. Therefore he misrepresented God, attributing to Him the desire for self-exaltation. With his own evil characteristics he sought to invest the loving Creator. Thus he deceived angels. Thus he deceived men. He led them to doubt the word of God, and to distrust His goodness. Because God is a God of justice and terrible majesty, Satan caused them to look upon Him as severe and unforgiving. Thus he drew men to join him in rebellion against God, and the night of woe settled down upon the world.” The Desire of Ages, page 21.
This is classic gas-lighting. Satan wanted something from the angels: their homage and he wanted to control them. The result of listening to gas-lighting is doubt about what is real and confusion about other people’s actions and intentions.
There is a way to counteract this harmful behavior. With a narcissist, most psychologists recommend leaving that relationship. This is the only way you will stop the gas-lighting. The only way that gas-lighting has any effect on you is if and when you listen to it (and when others listen to it and treat you differently). The way you can counteract the confusion you have about others is hear their story. You can spend time hearing what they have to say and get to know them again. The way you apply this to your relationship with God is read your Bible, spend time in nature, and listen to Christian music that speaks to you. Get to know God and you will know Love. “Only by love is love awakened. To know God is to love Him…” The Desire of Ages, page 22.
Are you confused about God? Do you see Him as harsh and controlling? This is simply not true! When you actually spend time with God you will not only see Him as loving, but you will know and love Him too. When you spend time being influenced by the darker forces of this world, you will experience confusion and see God as “severe and unforgiving.”
Please spend some time getting to know Him soon! (I’m writing this to myself mostly, but I also wanted to share it with y’all. The last several years have been difficult ones for me, which I’ll write about someday. In these years, I found it difficult to spend time with God, but He was always with me. When I was too tired and weak to read my Bible, He would speak to me though music or nature. My story is my story to tell, but it’s also God’s story. I pray that I will know how and what to write soon, if it will help anyone else out there.)